So I felt it to be appropriate on this day, Father's Day, to discuss dead beat dads all over the world.
Did you know that:
Nearly 47% of Black children live in single-parent homes, more than any other American ethnic group.
This is nearly half of all black kids in the world. Is it just me or is this number mind boggling.
About 40% of black children live in homes headed by single mothers. WTH???? So where are all the Black fathers??? This is a very good question, and I'm sure a lot of single Black mothers would like to know the answer too. Well I'm going to try to think of reasons why males are not raising their kids.
1. Lacks Responsibility- I've noticed that males do not own up to their responsibilities LIKE MEN SHOULD. It takes two to tangle! So you are just as responsible for raising this child as their mother.2. Lacks Drive- Who wants to be a DAD these days??? Its not in season huh?? You would rather be out partying on the beach and club hopping. Having kids ain't good for your street cred huh? But, of course why should you take care of your kids when you know their mother will. You have no desire to stress yourself out about it because you know your baby mama got yo back.
3. Lacks Motivation- Most and likely if you are a dead beat dad, then you were raised with a dead beat dad. DBD-ism (Dead Beat Dad syndrome) is often times hereditary. You have nothing to inspire you to do right. Even though you could use your lack of a father as motivation to do the right thing, You'd rather not. You would rather just keep perpetuating the stereotype, and just keep the trend going, BECAUSE its a "TRADITION!"
4. Lacks Education- Most DBDs are young! I am by no means stating that all DBDs are young, but most are. The trend for DBDs is to impregnant women, pretend like they will be there for their kids, drop out of high school , and roam the streets. DBDs do not normally seek a higher education, which leads to the next....
5. Lacks Money- NO EDUCATION=NO JOB=NO MONEY!!! DBDs will normally not take care of their kids because they "can't afford to." You all know how much diapers cost! Plus, we in a RECESSION! It's just too much to keep up with. You know DBDs would much rather spend money on cars and rims and shoes. Its so much MORE important than your KIDS.
6. Lacks Commitment- SOME men (not ALL!) are afraid of commitments whether that be relationships or life. Having children is a lifelong commitment! You cant just one day take it back, and be like okay today I do not have kIDS!!! If only it was that easy. Your kids ain't going no where. AND this probably scares a lot of males who do not want to be tied down! Some males even run away from their kids because they think they will be forced to be in relationships with their Baby Mamas. You do not have to be together to take care of your children.
7. Lacks Critical Thinking- Some males think that a child could hinder your "game" or swavor. You think they gonna be c-blockers and prevent you from getting yours. Because think about it no one wants to be on South Beach memorial Day weekend with kids by your side. Whose gonna want to talk to you?? However, if this is actually thought out and analyzed it is a benefit to be a father to your kids. Thik about it! A girl sees you out with your two kids, she will assume that you must have your ish together if you are taking care of your responsibilities, and of course she will want to talk to you. Kids can be girl magnets, ESPECIALLY cute kids!
If any of you out there are DEAD BEAT DADS, then I advise you to take care of your responsibilities and help raise your own kids. You laid down and made the child, so you can help raise the child. I'm so tired of seeing single moms working two jobs, and in school, while you sit at home doing nothing. Just remember that...
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