The ArchiFORD is Back!!!

I've been gone for a minute, but I am back with the jump off. A lot has changed since I last wrote, but I will be sure to catch you all up on all the ratchetness that has transpired. Brace yourselves! If you are not familiar with the ArchiFord let me explain that it is merely from my point of view from experiences that I HAD. Therefore, you might not agree with all the contents, but its my opinion and pure comedy. So feel free to catch up if you ever need some good laughs. New entries coming real soon!

Word of the Day: Staunch

Word of the day: Staunch

N. A stank and raunchy disposition or behavior exhibited by an individual; exhibiting negativity and foulness.

"This chick walking around here with this raggedy Onyx weave like it's real Remy, with this staunch attitude. She need ot sit down somewhere."

A person with a staunch attitude can at times be considered a NMFF (if you are unfamiliar with this acronym please see Bball Wives on VH1 or stay tuned for an entry on NMFF, because there are lots of these in the world.)

Synonyms for a person with a Staunch Attitude: Negative Nancy, Toxic Tamy, Complaining Cindy

Word of the Day: Jezebelian Spirit

So Im sure you all are familiar with spirits, i.e. The Holy Spirit, but there is another modern time spirit which is the Jezebelian Spirit.

Word of the Day- Jezebelian Spirit:

N. 1. The nonphysical part of a very promiscuous person that is the seat of emotions and character; the soul of a young adult (typically females) who can't keep her legs closed. 2. A morally loose and shameful individual. 3. A person with a supernatural being deemed evil and conniving.

Jezebels or "Promiscuous Petals" are also known to wear loads of make up and act slutty.

Girl A to Girl B: "I cant believe Sasha stole my boyfriend"

Girl B: "I told you to beware of her, she is so evil and slutty."

Girl A: She definitely has that Jezebelian Spirit.

Word of the Day: Quette

Word of the Day: Quette* (Pronounced Qw-ett)

Noun. A person lacking class and sophistication; a ghetto, hood-rat, project chick; one lacking the ability to mesh or blend in with others due to their innate, tasteless nature.

"Look at that Quette over there. SMH! Did you hear what she just said? She has no class."

-Let me say that I am all for people staying true to themselves, because at times I can be described as being hood rich. However, there is a time and a place for everything. Quettes sometimes lack the ability to censor themselves in professional settings which is just plain tacky. Quettes could exhibit the following qualities: nasty attitudes, foul vocabulary words, poor choice of wardrobes, and negative mentalities. Feel free to use this word in your daily conversations and point out those individuals that might fit in this category.

*Term coined by Adrian Nesbitt

WHERE ART THOU???

Locating Waldo on this picture is almost an easier task then locating the black males of society.

**Before I dive into this topic, I know I know, I've been gone for a minute but now I'm back with the jump off.**

It has definitely been a while since I last wrote. Here's a brief recap of what has occurred since the last time: I graduated from UF, spent a summer training and teaching in the Mississippi Delta, and moved to Charlotte to teach Middle School Math. Woohoo! Yes I know A lot has occurred, but the blog remains the same. The ArchiFord is my blog filled with very interesting perspectives, and unique opinions. If you do not like what I have to say, then merely dont read it. It is that simple. Ok now on to this entry....


Over the course of my trainings and transitions I have had numerous conversations about the state of black males and their lack of presence. It is so difficult for me to advocate that there are black males making strides in the world when I look around the room and realize that I am only one of 2 black males in a room off over 100. It's disheartening to know that I am about to start educating numerous students from underresourced school and underprivileged areas who are looking for positive male role models to look up to. But the problem is there aren't many too in this educational profession.

So I pose this question, where are all the black males?
1. Are they in jail or prison?
2. Are they in the military, marines, etc.?
3. Are they aspiring to be rappers or singers?
4. Are they playing sports?

I can name some places they aren't?
1. In college.
2. In the education field (Especially Teach for America).

We are in dire need of black males in the education field. We have a duty to give back to the youth. We cannot become complacent and think that the problem will solve itself.

*Think of this fact: by the third grade a jail cell is built for those students that cannot read on grade level. This is sad! We need to do something.

If we start getting them while they are young then our amount of black males in college will only increase, and the amount of black male doctor, lawyers, teachers, engineers will only increase. We just have to start working on this now. Nothing in life will be given to us, we have to work for it.

2010: A year in REVIEW!

First and foremost I hope everyone has had a safe and prosperous Christmas. Always be reminded that it is better to give than to receive, and that JESUS is the Reason for the Season. Okay now that I have delivered my little spiel, I can move onto the subject matter. As we approach our last few days of the 2010 year, it is important to look back and reflect on everything you have learned, encountered, experienced, and grown from throughout the year. Here is a list of some of the things 2010 has taught me:

1. Dead people tell no tales.
2. What is done in the dark always comes to light.
3. Know your role, and play you position.
4. The easiest way to get over someone, is to get someone new.
5. There is an uproar of lint lickers. They are taking over and in hiding. You all think we dont know that you are carpet munchers, but we know. Be proud of yours.
6. People are all talk. Dont just talk about it be about it.
7. People are resume builders. They do not do things because they care about it, but rather because it will help them get what they want. This also leads to the next one.
8. Once people get what they want they become brand new and often times rather annoying.
9. When you accept trash, you deserve all the trash in the world.
10. Say what you mean, and mean what you say.
11. People are afraid to speak their minds in fear of being judged or ridiculed. Do not censure yourself to please others.
12. Always remember to leave no trace and DENY, DENY, DENY!
13. The reformation of hoes/shones is not real.
14. Once a hoe, always a hoe (whether they choose to act on their shonish ways is up to them but they will always exhibit the ability to be a hoe again. )
15. People just do not know how to graduate. I promise you some people just been in school for 6-7 years. There is a life outside of UF.
16. Half of ALL African-Americans will marry a HOE!
17. Shone Interventions are important but sometimes do not work.
18. Shones are always on the prowl, so beware!
19. It is smarter to be a prostitute than a hoe. At least get paid for giving up the goods.
    
20. The "COMMUNITY" at UF is DEAD, and rightfully so.
21. Closed legs dont get fed.
22. Death to lacefronts. They are not cute and they take out all of your edges. Be smart ladies
23. Basic bihs are trying to take over. DO NOT LET THEM.
24. If the shoe fits, wear it, if not jam it in.
25. If you were a BASIC bih in 2010, you will be one in 2011. No thing changes.
26. People concern themselves with other's lives too often. Get a life, and stay outta people business.
27. Too many puppets roam around UF. Create you own path.
28. People live in a fantasy world and think that they are brand new.
29. Those who have a bad appearance need not to talk about others (i.e bad weave is NO BUENO! Please get the remy)
30. You give people a inch, and they take a mile.
31. People use MENTORing for personal advancement.
    
32. People sleep their ways into leadership positions.
33. People often times like to play the victim.
34. People cannot hold water, and like to start drama.
35. Make it rain- do not be promiscuous for free!
36. People live vicariously through Twitter and social Media. They try to mislead people to believing that they are cooler or flyer than they really are.
    
37. People lie about everything. Just tell the truth for once. If you tell one lie, you have to tell another to cover up for it.
    
38. Those who are often times on the defense, are 90% of the time guilty of something. What you getting mad for?
    
39. People who are not apart of certain things should not provide input on improvements. These people are always the first ones to talk about or give suggestions. If you do not know how its run or if you have NEVER been apart of it then please keep your mouth closed.
    
40. The set is dead! The reasoning for this is unknown but accept it.
41. Those who live in glass houses, should not throw stones. Stop pointing the fingers at others and take ownership.
    
42. Females have the power to control their own destiny. You are sitting on a pot of gold. Use what you got to get what you want.
43. People are still obsessed with urban wear. Baby Phat, Enyce, etc are not the business. Please do better.
44. People allow titles/positions/organizations/groups define who they are. Be true to yourself.
    
45. People put themselves at risk by having unprotected sexual intercourse. Be smart! To lead you must be aware.
    

I will leave you with this to ponder on. What things have 2010 taught you? Share them with the ArchiFord.

Are you a TRICK or a TREAT?

So the question is: Are you a trick or a treat, You be the judge? This is a self-assessment type of blog entry. It is time to re-evaluate our own self and determine if we are a trick or a treat. Do you have a malicious intent or are you misunderstood? Like I said before you be the judge!

Before I go into anything let me say Happy Birthday to my sister!!!

Alright now onto business.

The ArchiFord has been gone for a minute, now its back with the jumpoff!

Are you a TRICK....

• Are you a promiscuous PETALS or a SOCIAL BUTTERFLY fluttering your wings and things all over? It is okay to have fun, but do not get crazy! I feel as though everyone at some point in time has been a social butterfly (whether you admit it or not!). Hopefully this era occurred during your late adolescent years, and you have learned, matured and realized that you are no longer BTL (bout that life). Promiscuous Petals is no bueno.
• Are you using MENTORing for your personal advantage? People these days take mentoring to a whole new level. We have people being mentors in hopes of locating prospects. Mentors and mentees should not be sexually involved. Yet! This is currently a new trend. Everybody wants to use mentoring as a justification for their inhumane actions. If you all want to mess around then that is cool, yall are grown, but do not use mentoring as a way to cover it up.
• Did you or are you sleeping your way into leadership? This happens a lot in college as well as in life. People really think that sleeping with the boss or someone in a higher position will set them up for a successful future. This may work for a while, and you may obtain positions from it, but in due time it will all come crumbling down. This technique is actually a form of prostitution. You are giving up the goods for advancement.
  
• Do you converse with "FRIENDS" and think that others will not find out? Some people are unaware of the game. You can not possibly talk about someone else in the presence of people who know the other individual. People cannot hold water, and like to start drama. It isn't very smart to do this. People should reevaluate this term of friend, and realize that not everyone is your friend. Some people are meant for a season and some for lifetime. Once you realize this you can let things go and not worry about them.
• Do you play the victim? Stop thinking the world is after you, and take ownership for your own imperfections. Stop blaming other people, and playing this guilt trip. It does not work all the time. Man up in a sense, and stop playing the victim.

Are you a TREAT?

• Make it rain- do not be promiscuous for free! Like the Travis Porter song states in an revised version: If they wanna see something, then make them pay for it. Don't give it up for free. As I have mentioned before prostitutes are smarter than hoes.
• Mentor for the right reasons! Mentor others for their academic ans professional development and not for their sexual advancement.
• Be real and do not be afraid of conflict. Embrace conflict, and do not be scared to approach others with concerns. Man up!

This is all I have for you all on this Halloween evening. Enjoy!